In this module, we will explore two key factors of emergence: The first is the quality of the connection to our own essential self. How do we access this connection? How strong is a person’s sense of their essential self? How do we help others develop this connection in our therapy practice? All of these are a critical focus in our role as a therapist.
The second factor is our capacity to connect with others. Once a person has a connection to their essential self, how do they use it to connect with others? Do they get lost in merging? Do they have clear boundaries? How do different aspects of early development play themselves out?
Working with emergence, we must ask ourselves: What are we emerging from? What are we transforming into?
We will explore how Merging, Shame/Blame, Dependency, and Ruptured Boundaries keep people from knowing their Essential Self. Knowing our Essential Self helps us realize the truth within those experiences and shatters the walls of our internal prison, freeing us to create healthier connections with others.
This cutting-edge perspective will transform your practice first by empowering you, as a therapist, to heal at a deeper level as you integrate this material for yourself; and second, once you have experienced the powerful benefits for yourself, you can more confidently lead your clients down their own path of healing.
As neurobiologically-informed attachment therapists, it is essential to understand our role in helping form and shape new neural pathways that are more resilient and more adaptive. We must also strengthen or bring balance to areas of the brain that may have been underdeveloped, as well as weaken the old neural networks that are no longer adaptive to forming lasting bonds in our present and future selves.
Our early life experiences, whether they be of neglect, abuse, misattunement, intrusiveness, overwhelm or underwhelm, all shape and form connections (or fail to form connections) in developing parts of the brain. The good news is that our brain continues to be “plastic” throughout our life, and can shape and reshape old neural networks, or imprint new neural networks with new neural associations and connections.